Friendships After Being Diagnosed With A Mental Illness.

How did this affect your friendships?

Unfortunately I lost a few of my friends, one friend never really understood what I was going through and thought I had nothing to be depressed about as I had a husband and a baby that was healthy.

I guess the old saying, you never really understand until you have had to face it yourself, is true.

I thought they would support me or at least be there for me. I didn’t want to be a burden. But I didn’t expect them to treat me like that.

Most of my friends that didn’t have children didn’t keep in touch or check in. I guess life gets in the way and people move on.

That’s fine.

It’s the people you least expect that step up and support you when you need it the most.

I truly believe people show their true colours when you need them. Maybe it’s because they don’t fully understand. Maybe it’s because they can’t be bothered to get involved, or maybe it’s because they didn’t care enough.

I now know that having a mental illness can be the most lonely, isolating feeling in the world.

You always ask yourself, why me?

It’s heart breaking when someone you thought would support you turns out, to not be the person you thought they were.

I always wish that the people that criticise and say things like ‘it’s a pretty common mental illness though isn’t it, you’ll be fine’ would think before they speak.

The people that down play how serious a mental illness is, think!

Be it;

Postnatal Depression







Or any other mental illness.

To the person that is suffering it is everything to them. Their whole life becomes that illness in the early days and they may never get over it, instead cope with it. So when you find out that your friend has a mental illness, support them. You don’t have to be on a 24 hour watch.

Ask them once in a while if their ok. Let them know that you are there to listen if they need to talk.

Don’t make it sound like it’s the most common thing to have, like it’s the latest trend.

To them it’s a matter of trying to live.

I completely understand that people may feel uncomfortable when it comes to knowing what to say and what not to say. But sometimes a listening ear is all that’s needed.

Be as supportive as you can be. You don’t have to understand what’s going through someone’s mind to be there for them.




  1. This is such a good post Kerry 😘. It is a shame that some friendships don’t last through mental health issues. However, the new friendships are normally stronger and more valuable. It’s lovely you have such a supportive god mother to your child in your life, she sounds so supportive. Thank you for sharing this 💕 xx

    Bexa |

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  2. I suffer with anxiety and it’s so hard to try and explain it to friends. Some do understand or at least try too. But others don’t understand and just think I can’t be bothered to make plans etc. It’s a great post! I try to be as supportive as I can to my friends who suffer as I know how hard it can be xx

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